I’m a Better Mommy When I’m Working… These Are Facts

8 hours for me... the rest of my life for you.

8 hours for me… the rest of my life for you.

When my daughter was born, I swore that I would spend every waking second I could teaching her and loving her. I wanted to always be present for my children. I wanted to be the one that wiped every tear and kissed every boo boo. I wanted to make sure all my energy went to making them happy, wholesome, well rounded members of society. In my mind, this meant being a stay-at-home mom which has to be one of the most difficult jobs ever (read about that HERE). After all, how could one work and possibly muster up the energy to be a loving and dedicated mother? The answer? Quite easily.

After one week (that’s right, only one week), I have found that working has made me a better mother and wife and given me a new sense of confidence I have not known since becoming a mom. I feel proud to be contributing financially to my family. My husband is a generous and reliable provider, no doubt. But there is something empowering about bringing in my own money and being able to bankroll some of my own desires as well as things for the family.

I have also found a great amount of joy in having a purpose outside of our household. While the clerical side of my job may not sound very exciting, the writing and marketing aspects are thrilling and will allow me to spread my social butterfly wings. I need that. It makes me feel normal again. I need that too. I am rediscovering the adult in me — the adult that exists beyond the realm of motherhood and all things domestic. I am tapping into that part of me I was desperate to know again. And I’m better for it.

So all in all, I was wrong about having to stay-at-home to be a loving and dedicated mother. I considered all the things one must think about before returning to work. I realize while I was fortunate enough to stay with both my babies their first two years, I feel very blessed in being able to return to work. I am not any less loving or caring a mom because I work a job. If anything, I am a better one.  I am morphing into the type of person I want them to see. Not just employed but happy and fulfilled. My truth is that staying at home simply was not enough for me and it was not taking care of myself. Now I can take care of myself and them too. That’s a peace of mind like none other.



Wordless Wednesday July 2, 2014

Bees do it... pollenate, I mean.

Bees do it… pollenate, I mean.


Buying the Body Beautiful: Plastic Surgery is Calling My Name

Some things in life you can't fix. Others, you can!

Some things in life you can’t fix. Others, you can!

Let me begin by saying that I would have never in a million years thought that I would ever want to have plastic surgery done. Prior to my pregnancies I had a body that I was really proud of. Don’t get me wrong… it wasn’t perfect. I had a tad bit of a belly and no matter the amount of walking I did or do, I have thighs that have their own agenda. My BMI was never what it should be. But even so, I was still happy with my body. When my clothes came off, even the imperfections were in proportion and I loved it. I loved my flawed self.

Fast forward four years, two pregnancies, and several breast infections later. Genetics has not been on my side. Gravity has not been on my side. In fact, the only things that have consistently been on my sides are my breasts. Go figure. And while I lost my tummy bulge fairly quickly the skin it left behind resembles an elephant leg. Don’t laugh. It literally looks like an elephant leg. I realize I might sound silly complaining about these things… but I am finding that the change in my body has really effected my self-esteem and confidence.

So, I’m going to check into a full on mommy package not because I’m vain, but because I want to feel like me again. My “motherhood” body has made me a different person — one that begs for mom jeans and oversized shirts and granny panties.  But the real me, the one inside, wants to be able to look in the mirror and not feel totally changed and deflated. I want to look in the mirror and think, “hey, she’s kinda hot!” I want to honor this body that housed and grew two fabulous children. I want to restore it. And maybe, just maybe some of that fire in me will return too.



Sipping and Blogging: An Evening with The SITS Girls and Mirassou Winery


Our seats featured an informational placemat, wine tags, a corkscrew, and a Sharpie! #swag

Our seats featured an informational placemat, recipe cards, wine tags, a corkscrew, and a Sharpie! #swag


Last weekend I was fortunate enough to get the opportunity to attend a blogging conference here in Sacramento at the Double Tree Hotel. The SITS Girls and Mirassou Winery were gracious enough to host this event and offer us the best of education on blogging and wines. It was a fun night full of networking, wine swirling, and really re-evaluating my approach and goals in blogging.

Tiffany of The SITS Girls opened up the event. She was so inspiring as she delved into the very important details of running and promoting a blog successfully. She was brutally honest but incredibly nice. At certain points I was a little disappointed to learn that I had been doing some things the absolute WRONG way but Tiffany’s upbeat and optimistic presentation helped me to know that I wasn’t the only one who has made these mistakes… and they are fixable if I am willing to do the work.

After a dose of blogging know-how, we were treated to a delicious lesson in wine tasting and pairing from David Mirassou of Mirassou Wineries. Mirassou Winery has been providing quality wines for over 150 years. David regaled us with the story of his family history and the journey of their Pinot Noir grape cuttings to America as we noshed on a variety of cheeses and appetizers and swirled, sniffed, and sipped our perfectly paired wines. A light, crisp Chardonnay, their delicious Pinot Noir, Sunset Red (a blended red), and a perfectly sweet Moscato flowed generously and we talked easily as the wine took effect. I especially enjoyed getting to know Dawn from I Am a Mommy Nerd, Emilia from Half Crazy Mama, and Cori from Let’s Eat Grandpa.


Macaroni and cheese and spring rolls complimented the wines PERFECTLY. Nom!

Macaroni and cheese and spring rolls complimented the wines PERFECTLY. Nom!

To end the evening, Francesca of The SITS Girls gave us helpful tips on making social media work for promoting your blog. We touched on SEO, the best social media platforms, and what NOT to do when trying to extend your reach. I was relieved to know that I was pretty knowledgeable about these things but again, there were some lessons I desperately needed to learn. Thankfully, Francesca and Tiffany were there to teach me.

I cannot fully express how much I enjoyed this event. Getting to know fellow bloggers in the area and learning how to make the most of my own blog was an invaluable experience. Getting to know David Mirassou and the Mirassou brand was icing on the cake! I’d like to thank The SITS Girls and Mirassou Wineries for hosting this event. It is definitely safe to say I am looking forward to many more blog conferences with The SITS Girls and many more evenings with a bottle of Mirassou wine. In the meantime, stay tuned. I’ll be sharing more of what I learned about blogging and wine soon!